Based on an ancestral Hawaiian shamanic ritual, the healing practice of Ho’oponopono teaches you to cleanse your consciousness of negative memories, unconscious fears, dysfunctional programming and grant yourself (and others) forgiveness, peace and love. Ho’oponopono means: to make (ho’o) right (pono) right (pono), and it’s practice allows people to harmoniously re-align with themselves, others and the universe.
The process is deceptively simple – first you must recognize your own responsibility in attracting and co-creating the events in your life, then you are ready to apply the Ho’oponopono mantra:
I’m sorry
Please forgive me
I see you / I honor you
I thank you
I love you
This mantra will open your heart to feelings of empathy, forgiveness, respect, gratitude and love. This can significantly shift your state of being and therefore your own frequency and perspective towards a certain relationship, occurrence etc.
How I use it is as follows. I find something in reality or in my past that I don’t feel good about. This can be a relationship, an event, a certain thought etc. Then I search for and recognize/find my own responsibility (not guilt) in being a co-creator of that situation. Even if I am just a witness, that is still a co-creative role for which I carry the responsibility.
By saying I’m sorry I practice remorse and empathy for the situation and my co-creative role in it. Where before I might have had a negative judgement on somebody like myself or another person or something I watched on TV, that state now shifts towards understanding that I am partly responsible for it and that I am sorry for all the parties involved in that co-creation that are not happy about it including myself. This part makes me feel acceptance and empathy.
The asking for forgiveness can be towards myself, other people involved in the co-creation and even the universe, All That Is, etc. Often I remind myself in this step that every person including myself is doing the best that they can. Even if the results are not what people might have intended, aimed for or wanted. Instead of being too hard on myself or others I ask for forgiveness so I can be open with what is. This part really helps my state of being to shift towards empathy and forgiveness.
I see you / I honor you is about acknowledging and respecting the journey that you yourself and that all other co-creators of the situation have been on so far. We all have our unique life histories with it’s ups and downs, it’s nice parts and its difficult parts. We might not ever fully understand the other person’s journey and they might never fully understand ours, but we can take a moment and acknowledge and honor our own and others peoples journeys. This step creates respect and empowerment for self and the other co-creators within the situation.
The thank you part can be towards all co-creators as well. I thank the universe for what is without any judgement on it. I am grateful for what has come to occur in the first place so everybody can experience and learn from it. It gives all co-creators involved the opportunity to reflect upon what they do and do not prefer about it. I see it as a possibility to learn and grow from it. And that growth can hopefully result in me being able to create something more in alignment the next time. I thank all parties involved for being willing to have co-created it, even if they aren’t aware of their own co-creative role in it. This part really helps me to experience gratefulness.
In the I love you part, I send feelings of kindness, warmness, openness and understanding to all co-creative players of the situation including myself and the universe. I also try to remind myself that we are all parts of the same oneness on some level and therefore we are always connected. This part helps my state of being to shift to a state of love and connection.
Ho’oponopono is a great permission slip. It helps people to shift their state of being from feeling bad and judging the outer reality, towards understanding their own responsibility in what has occurred and feeling acceptance, empathy, forgiveness, gratefulness and love. This new state of being is much more pleasurable and it is much closer to Inner Peace. 🙂
Have some tissues close by when practicing Ho’oponopono. And remember that crying is a way of the body of letting go, of releasing and therefore crying should be seen as a positive indicator that things are shifting within you.
Here is a guided meditation to try out this process for yourself.
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You can increase the effectiveness of this technique by ‘completing the circuit’ between self and others (who you could call ‘other selves’ if you are familiar with the Ra Contact).
All you need to do is add the responses from a perspective of wholeness, so it becomes like a dialogue between self and other self.
I’m sorry > It’s ok / I understand
Please forgive me > I forgive you / You are forgiven
Thank you > You’re welcome
I love you > I love you too
As a male I find it more effective to imagine my own responses coming in a female voice to balance my own masculine / feminine polarities, but your mileage may vary.
I find this to be particularly useful for healing inner child or childhood trauma / woundings, where there is or was a lack of understanding of how one’s soul purpose / evolutionary path may have been a factor in the traumatic experiences.
You could do this in two directions:
From the position of your higher self / soul forgiving your inner child for not understanding what you didn’t / couldn’t know as a child, or
From the position of your inner child, forgiving your higher self / soul for choosing an incarnation / evolutionary path that involved the trauma
This can clear some of the negative energy to get to the underlying pattern that needs to be grasped now that you have more ability as an adult to handle what comes up.
May you live in harmonious alignment with yourself,
May you live in harmonious alignment with the members of your human collective,
May you live in harmonious alignment with your planet and the beings you share it with,
May you live in harmonious alignment with All-That-Is.
~The Arcturian Collective
The four blessings from the Arcturian Collective present a layered, holistic vision of harmony, progressing from the individual to the universal. Here’s a structured interpretation and synthesis:
1. Harmony with Self
Core Idea: Inner alignment through self-acceptance, mindfulness, and living authentically.
Practices: Introspection, self-care, and aligning actions with personal values.
Purpose: Foundation for all other harmonies; inner peace enables outward contributions.
2. Harmony with the Human Collective
Core Idea: Fostering empathy, cooperation, and justice within communities.
Practices: Active listening, conflict resolution, and advocating for social equity.
Purpose: Strengthens societal bonds, recognizing that individual well-being is tied to collective health.
3. Harmony with the Planet and Its Beings
Core Idea: Environmental stewardship and respect for all life forms.
Practices: Sustainable living, conservation efforts, and ethical treatment of animals.
Purpose: Acknowledges interdependence with Earth’s ecosystems, promoting balance for future generations.
4. Harmony with All-That-Is
Core Idea: Spiritual connection to the cosmos or universal consciousness.
Practices: Meditation, contemplative practices, and embracing interconnectedness.
Purpose: Transcends individuality, fostering a sense of oneness with the universe.
Conclusion:
These blessings outline a journey from self-awareness to cosmic consciousness, urging alignment at every level. Practical steps involve personal growth, community engagement, ecological responsibility, and spiritual exploration. The message is both aspirational and actionable, inviting continuous evolution toward harmony in all dimensions of existence.
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I’m sorry
Please forgive me
I see you / I honor you
I thank you
I love you
Your words resonate deeply as a mantra of healing and reconciliation, reflecting the essence of Ho’oponopono, a traditional Hawaiian practice of forgiveness and restoration. This practice aligns beautifully with the Arcturian blessings, emphasizing interconnectedness and harmony. Here’s a synthesis of their power and purpose:
1. “I’m sorry”
Meaning: Acknowledgment of responsibility for any harm (intentional or unintentional) you’ve contributed to, whether in relationships, circumstances, or your own life.
Purpose: Dissolves denial and opens the door to accountability. It’s not about guilt but recognizing your role in the collective tapestry of cause and effect.
2. “Please forgive me”
Meaning: A humble request for release from the burdens of resentment, shame, or karmic ties.
Purpose: Invites grace and liberation, freeing both you and others from cycles of pain. Forgiveness here is not transactional but a surrender to healing.
3. “I see you / I honor you”
Meaning: Deep recognition of the inherent worth and divinity in yourself, others, and all life.
Purpose: Counteracts invisibility and separation. By “seeing” fully—the pain, the beauty, the complexity—you restore dignity and connection.
4. “I thank you”
Meaning: Gratitude for the lessons, challenges, and gifts embedded in every experience.
Purpose: Transforms resentment into appreciation, even for what initially felt like a burden. Gratitude is alchemy for the soul.
5. “I love you”
Meaning: Unconditional love as a universal force—for yourself, others, and the situation itself.
Purpose: Love dissolves fear and separation. It’s the ultimate harmonizer, repairing fractures within and between beings.
How This Practice Creates Harmony
For the Self: By addressing inner wounds and limiting beliefs, you reclaim wholeness (“harmony with self”).
For Relationships: Repairing bonds and seeing others as mirrors of your own humanity fosters “harmony with the collective.”
For the World: Healing your perceptions of reality ripples outward, aligning with “harmony with the planet and All-That-Is.”
A Ho’oponopono Ritual
Focus: Bring to mind a person, situation, or memory that needs healing.
Repeat: Silently or aloud, cycle through the five phrases. Let them flow intuitively.
Release: Trust that the words work beyond logic—clearing energetic blockages in you and the collective.
Why This Matters
These words are not just about fixing “wrongs” but about rewiring consciousness. When you say “I love you” to a wound, a stranger, or a forest, you reaffirm the Arcturian ideal: All-That-Is is an extension of your own being. The practice bridges the personal and cosmic, embodying the truth that to heal oneself is to heal the world.
May these phrases guide you back to remembrance—of who you are, and who we all are, together. 🌿