Author Archives: Douwe Beerda

Connect to your feelings and needs and learn how to set healthy boundaries

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Thai Gibson is a person with great and deep insight into the attachment style we develop as children to our caregivers and how the different ways of minor and major childhood trauma can show up later in life.

The 4 main different attachment styles are: Secure attachment, Anxious attachment, Avoidant attachment and Fearful-avoidant attachment. Take her quiz here to see which attachment style(s) fits you most.

Working through and optimizing the patterns from growing up can be of enormous benefit in your relationship to yourself to your loved ones, your co workers and the broader external world in general.


The Personal Development school teaches us to connect to our own feelings, to understand and connect to our needs, how we can learn to fulfil our own own needs first but then also how to ask other people to help fulfil them in a healthy way.

In addition it is about learning to set  healthy boundaries and how to enforce these in a healthy manner. What is enmeshment and how do co-dependency patterns form and how can we heal these?

By understanding and healing ourselves our own life quality will increase and in addition we can show up in a kinder and more healthy way to the people around us also.

By understanding ourselves and being better in relating to ourselves and others we will create more harmonious life’s with both more inner peace and more outer joy.

Resources:
-) The Personal Development YouTube Channel
-) Online Personal Development School

Connect to unknown parts of yourself through sacred medicine

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One way to get to know formerly unknown parts of yourself is to connect to sacred teachers that have been with us on this planet since the beginning of our species.
There are psychedelic substances available that when treated in a sacred way and connected with in a good set, setting and intention can be tremendous sources of self insight.

The term “psychedelic” is derived from the Ancient Greek words psychē (ψυχή, “soul”) and dēloun (δηλοῦν, “to make visible, to reveal”), translating to “mind-manifesting”.

The documentary: The Reality of Truth, is a great introduction as to what psychedelics are, how powerful they can be, and how one engages in them from a place of respect for yourself and the teacher.

In addition, multiple bestselling author Michael Pollan
wrote a great informational book on this subject called:

How to Change your mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence.

Diving deep into an extraordinary world – from shamans and magic mushroom hunts to the pioneering labs mapping our brains – and putting himself forward as a guinea-pig, Michael Pollan has written a remarkable history of psychedelics and a compelling portrait of the new generation of scientists fascinated by the implications of these drugs. How to Change Your Mind is a report from what could very well be the future of consciousness.

A third source of great information on this subject is a series called: Hamilton’s Pharmacopeia. Hamilton Morris dives deep in the history and shamanic use of different psychedelics like: Magic Mushrooms, Cacti like Peyote and San Pedro, Salvia Devinorum, 5-MeO-DMT from the secretion of the toad Bufo Alvarius and more.

And last, this short documentary from After Skool shows how psychedelics and the insight they can give a person can help them change unhealthy patterns and get people in more alignment with themselves. Psychedelics can help you reconnect to who you truly authentically are so you can then start creating your life from this reconnected place.